Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 42: Birth Father Roles & Their Impact Many times birth fathers and birth mothers have broken up and are not longer together and without his support; emotional, physical, financial and mental- a birth mother decides adoption is in the best interest of both her and her unborn baby.  The birth mother may have realized that her relationship is incredibly unstable and wants stability and longevity for her child.   Other times, birth mothers may continue to be in a relationship with their unborn baby’s birth father and he is not in support of her adoption plan.  He will argue with her about her plan, and she sticks to her plan and they will break up and get back together and the focus becomes on him rather than her adoption plan.  In her mind, she has made her decision and her knees are locked.  This situati ...