Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 56: The Hardest Time For a Birth Mother For one woman the most difficult time may be walking through the door of the adoption agency, having made the choice to place her baby for adoption. For another it may be choosing the adoptive family, worrying that she won’t choose the right one.  Another may really struggle with telling friends, family members and co-workers about her adoption choice.  Another may struggle with an ongoing battle in her head regarding how she is in a place in her life where adoption is the best choice for her and her baby. A common thread is leaving the hospital and saying good bye to their baby.  They have already experienced the trauma of labor and delivery, (yes trauma.)  And then choosing how much time to spend with their baby and then saying goodbye to their baby can be anoth ...