Transformation has a way of arriving in two distinct forms. Sometimes it chooses you—through upheaval, loss, disruption, or a sudden unraveling—and when it does, resistance is futile. You can’t outrun it, outthink it, or keep your old life intact. Other times, transformation is something you choose—a conscious commitment to growth, evolution, and becoming. And in many ways, that path is even more challenging, because it requires overriding the ego’s fierce attachment to what is familiar.

In this episode, Haydn and Terry explore five core dimensions of this “choose or be chosen” dynamic, including the mysterious way life conspires through circumstances to initiate us. Haydn shares his own experience of being “chosen” and the profound dark night of the soul that followed.

Whether you’re navigating a dif ...