Anyway, Back To Me
The Apology You Didn't Owe
di Cyndee Goldstein
How many times have you said “sorry” today to someone who didn’t need an apology? If you lost count around four, this episode is for you. In the first episode of Anyway, Back to Me, Cyndee introduces the show: sharp, honest conversations about the small, daily ways we abandon ourselves to keep everyone else comfortable. Then she takes apart the most universal one of all: the reflexive, unearned “sorry.” You’ll hear why over-apologizing isn’t a personality trait but a survival strategy you built a long time ago. You’ll hear the three places it shows up most (work, family, and the people closest to you) and the one-question test that tells a real apology from a fee you’re charging yourself for taking up space. And you’ll get the swaps that replace “sorry” with what’s actually true. In this episode Why every unnecessary sorry is a vote that your needs are an inconvenience Old script vs. new script: the late feedback, the missed call from Mom The difference between accountability and apologizing for existing The one-week exercise: “Did I actually do something wrong, or am I just about to take up space?” Why the new habit feels rude at first, and why it takes two months, not two days Free resources The Script Sheet: ten common “sorry”s and what to say instead, side by side. [link] The Guilt Audit: a free two-page worksheet for separating real responsibility from guilt you’ve been carrying out of habit. [link] Book: What If This Is Happening For You? Next week: The favor you didn’t have to say yes to. It’s a close cousin of this one, and it might make you a little mad, in a good way. If this episode did anything for you, send it to the person in your life who apologizes for their own existence more than you do. Subscribe so you don’t miss it; new episodes drop every Tuesday. Cyndee is not a therapist, and this show isn’t a substitute for professional mental health care. Anyway. Back to me.
Sharp, funny, honest conversations about boundaries, self-worth, and choosing yourself, because somebody has to say the quiet part out loud. Hosted by Cyndee Goldstein, author of What If This Is Happening for You?, Anyway, Back to Me is the podcast companion to everything this brand stands for. Each episode digs into the apology you didn't owe, the favor you didn't have to say yes to, and the reason you're exhausted that has nothing to do with being lazy. If you've spent years being the emotional weather station for everyone around you, tracking the pressure, predicting the storm, and somehow still ending up the one who apologizes, this is your permission slip to stop. New episodes every Tuesday, starting October 13, 2026. Subscribe now so you're the first to know when it launches.