If you’re naturally easygoing but constantly worried that you’re too lazy, too inconsistent, or not disciplined enough, you might have spent years trying to turn yourself into a completely different person.

You consume self improvement because you want to feel better about yourself. But somehow every new routine, habit, productivity rule, or “best version of yourself” checklist just gives you another way to feel like you’re falling short.

So you try harder. You become more disciplined. More self-aware. More productive. More agreeable. More put together. But you still don’t feel good enough.

In this episode, we’re talking about what happens when self-improvement becomes a way to reject who you already are and how to grow without constantly trying to become the kind of person you think no one could criticize, reject, or call lazy. ...