If you’ve ever tried to become prettier, more disciplined, more successful, more emotionally mature, more confident or just more like that girl because you thought you’d finally feel good enough once you got there, this episode is for you.

For years, I thought becoming my ideal self would make me impossible to criticize, reject, or abandon. So I hyperanalyzed myself, tried to fix every flaw, and treated my naturally Type B, sensitive, messy, comfort-loving personality like something I needed to outgrow.

But no matter how much I improved, the finish line kept moving (even though I was convinced it didn’t)

In this episode, I’m sharing what finally changed: why trying to earn self-worth through self-improvement was actually making me trust myself less, how I stopped organizing my life around other people’s perception of m ...