What Do You Actually Want?

What do you actually want?

Not what your parents want. Not what society expects. Not what Instagram makes you feel like you should want. You. What do you actually want?

In this episode of Richie’s Talk Zone, Richie takes a step back from the pressure to have life figured out and asks one of the simplest but hardest questions: What do you actually want from your life?

After talking about juggling multiple lives and learning that you’re not everybody’s emergency contact, this episode goes deeper — into identity, expectations, comparison, career, relationships, success and the pressure to constantly look like you’re making progress.

We talk about the Nigerian “expectation package,” the difference between having an impressive life and having a fulfilling one, how social media can distort what we think we want, and why being busy doesn't necessarily mean you're moving forward.

Sometimes, you don't need another five-year plan.

Sometimes, you just need to pause and ask yourself:

“If nobody was watching, what would I choose?”

In this episode, we talk about:

• The pressure to have your life figured out
• Family and societal expectations
• The Nigerian definition of “success”
• Comparison and social media
• Wanting an impressive life vs. a fulfilling life
• Career, relationships, and personal ambitions
• Being busy vs. actually being productive
• Giving yourself permission to want something different
• Why your dream doesn't have to make sense to everyone
• Figuring out your next step when you don't have everything figured out

Richie’s Reflection

Maybe you don't need to have your entire life mapped out.

Maybe you just need to be honest about what you want right now and give yourself permission to pursue it.

Because you can spend so much time building the life everyone thinks you should want that you forget to ask whether you actually want it.

Listen to “What Do You Actually Want?” on Richie’s Talk Zone, wherever you get your podcasts.

Listen. Think. Talk about it.