Out With the Old, In With the Truth: Healing Our Foundation of Self

What if some of the things we believe about ourselves aren't actually who we are?

In this installment of the Inner Heart Healing Road Map, I explore how complex trauma, emotional abandonment, and shame can become patterns we mistake for identity—and what it can look like to begin choosing something different.

Through my own experiences, we explore the Root, Garden, Heart and Throat centers; neuroplasticity; self-worth; emotional support; and a four-step practice for self-validation: Recognize, Validate, Discern and Support.

Stay through the end for a tarot pull and Healing Heart Garden Meditation to gently release what you're ready to let go of and plant new seeds of love, belonging, dignity and truth.

With Love,

Rev. Jane

In this episode of the Inner Heart Healing Road Map, we're exploring our foundation of Self—the beliefs and patterns that can take root when trauma, emotional abandonment, fear, and shame become part of our earliest understanding of who we are.

I share some of my own experiences with complex trauma and what I've learned about grieving old identities, choosing ourselves repeatedly, and learning to build self-worth, love, and belonging from within.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• How prolonged trauma can affect the way we process emotions, memories, and perceived threats

• The Root and Garden metaphor for understanding learned patterns • Why awakening and healing can include grief

• The Heart Center and rebuilding self-worth, love, and belonging

• The Throat Center, creativity, and learning to express our truth • Emotional self-support and self-validation

• Why self-worth and accountability must coexist

• Journal prompts for beginning your own practice

• Tarot pull

• Healing Heart Garden Meditation

THE SELF-VALIDATION PRACTICE:

1. Recognize — This happened, and this is what I experienced.
2. Validate — My feelings about this experience are real and worthy of my attention.
3. Discern — What belongs to me here? What am I responsible for, and what isn't mine to carry?
4. Support — What do I need right now, and how can I offer that to myself with compassion?

My feelings are valid. My interpretation can still be examined. My behavior is still mine to own.

JOURNAL PROMPTS:

What does abandonment feel like for me?

What do I need when I feel that way?

How can I offer some of that support to myself?

If journaling feels difficult, simply begin with:

“Right now I feel…”

“What I wish someone understood is…”

“What I need to hear right now is…”

“Today I can honor myself by…”

READ: Out With the Old, In With the Truth

REFLECT: Shedding What Was Never Mine

With Love & Gratitude, Rev. Jane