Notas del episodio
Mom guilt can make you feel bad for taking a break, spending money on yourself, going out with your friends, setting boundaries or simply doing something that has absolutely nothing to do with your children. But does choosing yourself actually make you a bad mom? Girl, no.
This week on Motherhood Is a MF, Kei is coming for mom guilt — and the unspoken expectation that becoming a “good mom” means putting yourself last.
Because somehow a hair appointment can turn into, “I could've spent this money on the kids.”
Brunch with your girls becomes, “I should probably be home.”
Rest becomes something you have to earn.
And taking care of yourself somehow starts feeling selfish instead of necessary.
We're not doing that over here.
Kei gets into why moms need friendships, rest, boundaries, and lives of their own — and why your children actually benefit from seeing you model what it looks like to be loved well, take care of yourself, maintain healthy relationships, and say no sometimes.
IN THIS EPISODE:
- Why mom guilt shows up when you spend time or money on yourself
- Putting yourself first without feeling like a bad mom
- Why moms need friendships and time away from their families too
- Setting boundaries with your children
- What your kids learn by watching how you take care of yourself
- Why becoming a mom doesn't mean everything has to revolve around your children
- Comparison, social media and the pressure to perform “good motherhood”
- Letting go of motherhood expectations that don't work for your actual life
- Giving yourself permission to rest without earning it
LETTER FROM THE VILLAGE
This week's letter comes from a mom who has officially been humbled by motherhood.
Before having children, she had opinions.
Her child would never have a meltdown in Target.
She wasn't going to rely on a tablet at dinner.
She wasn't going to serve the same three meals on repeat.
Her child wasn't sleeping in her bed.
And she certainly wasn't going to become one of those tired moms canceling plans.
Then she had a three-year-old.
Now she's wondering how to stop beating herself up for breaking all the motherhood rules she created before she actually knew what the job required.
Kei's answer?
Pre-mom you didn't have a toddler.
Give that woman — and the moms you once judged — a little grace.
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