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What Is Motherhood Costing You?
Moms, Stop Giving Everyone the Best of You
Mom Guilt Is Bullsh*t: Putting Yourself First Without Feeling Like a Bad Mom
Good Mom, Bad B*tch: You Don’t Have to Lose Yourself in Motherhood.
How much of your career, money, ambition and future have you quietly put on hold since becoming a mom? Motherhood is expensive — and we're not talking about diapers, daycare or tuition. Sometimes the cost is the promotion you didn't pursue. The certification you let expire. The business sitting in your Notes app. The professional network you've stopped nurturing. The money you stopped putting toward yourself. Or the dream you keep promising you'll get back to “when the kids get older.” This week on Motherhood Is a MF, Kei is talking about motherhood and career, working-mom ambition, financial independence, professional growth and why moms shouldn't automatically become the default sacrifice in their families. Because “later” has a funny way of turning into years. And while some dreams genuinely need to wait for a different season, delayed does not have to mean abandoned. IN THIS EPISODE: The hidden ways motherhood can affect your career and ambition • Putting your professional goals on hold after having kids • Why moms often become the default parent — and default sacrificer • Sharing responsibility with a spouse or co-parent • Protecting your savings and retirement • Keeping skills, certifications and professional relationships current • Planting seeds for a business or career move before you're ready to make the full leap • Updating your resume and LinkedIn before you desperately need them • Why your future self deserves a plan too. YOUR CHALLENGE Do one thing this week that your future self will thank you for. Update the resume. Reconnect with your network. Take the class. Research the certification. Look at the job. Start the business paperwork. Save the money. You don't have to build the entire future today. Just plant something. 💌 Send your Letter From the Village to motherhoodisamf@gmail.com. Follow Motherhood Is a MF so we can keep figuring out how to enjoy motherhood without disappearing inside of it.
What happens when your kids, work, partner, friends and everybody else get the best version of you — and you get whatever is left? This week, Kei is talking about putting yourself first, setting boundaries, overcommitting and protecting your time and emotional capacity before you run completely empty. Sometimes relationships need to be treated like subscriptions: somebody gets premium access, somebody gets basic cable, and somebody's subscription might need to be canceled altogether. Kei also shares how she had to rethink the extravagant ways she showed up for other people's birthdays after realizing she wasn't giving herself that same level of time, planning, money and thoughtfulness. Because if you're willing to give somebody else the best of you, shouldn't you get some of it too? ALSO IN THIS EPISODE: • Setting boundaries around your availability • Saying no without needing a dramatic reason • Doing less when you've been overcommitting • Why your time is a premium resource • Putting something into yourself before everybody starts making withdrawals • Spending money on yourself without guilt THIS WEEK'S CHALLENGE Do something for yourself first. Make your coffee first. Make your plate first. Take your quiet time first. Just once, don't wait until everybody else has been served before you decide what you get. Send your Letter From the Village to motherhoodisamf@gmail.com. Follow Motherhood Is a MF so you don't miss the next group chat.
Mom guilt can make you feel bad for taking a break, spending money on yourself, going out with your friends, setting boundaries or simply doing something that has absolutely nothing to do with your children. But does choosing yourself actually make you a bad mom? Girl, no. This week on Motherhood Is a MF, Kei is coming for mom guilt — and the unspoken expectation that becoming a “good mom” means putting yourself last. Because somehow a hair appointment can turn into, “I could've spent this money on the kids.” Brunch with your girls becomes, “I should probably be home.” Rest becomes something you have to earn. And taking care of yourself somehow starts feeling selfish instead of necessary. We're not doing that over here. Kei gets into why moms need friendships, rest, boundaries, and lives of their own — and why your children actually benefit from seeing you model what it looks like to be loved well, take care of yourself, maintain healthy relationships, and say no sometimes. IN THIS EPISODE: Why mom guilt shows up when you spend time or money on yourself Putting yourself first without feeling like a bad mom Why moms need friendships and time away from their families too Setting boundaries with your children What your kids learn by watching how you take care of yourself Why becoming a mom doesn't mean everything has to revolve around your children Comparison, social media and the pressure to perform “good motherhood” Letting go of motherhood expectations that don't work for your actual life Giving yourself permission to rest without earning it LETTER FROM THE VILLAGE This week's letter comes from a mom who has officially been humbled by motherhood. Before having children, she had opinions. Her child would never have a meltdown in Target. She wasn't going to rely on a tablet at dinner. She wasn't going to serve the same three meals on repeat. Her child wasn't sleeping in her bed. And she certainly wasn't going to become one of those tired moms canceling plans. Then she had a three-year-old. Now she's wondering how to stop beating herself up for breaking all the motherhood rules she created before she actually knew what the job required. Kei's answer? Pre-mom you didn't have a toddler. Give that woman — and the moms you once judged — a little grace. JOIN THE GROUP CHAT: https://motherhoodisamf.myflodesk.com/miamf What's something you've felt mom guilt about that you've been too embarrassed to admit out loud? Come tell us. This is a judgment-free, guilt-free zone. Letter From the Village: motherhoodisamf@gmail.com Interested in sponsoring Motherhood Is a MF or highlighting your small business on the show? Email motherhoodisamf@gmail.com. Follow Motherhood Is a MF on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you don't miss the next conversation. Because motherhood may be part of who you are. It does not have to become all of you.
Good Mom, Bad B*tch Being a good mom does not require disappearing inside of motherhood. Welcome to the first episode of Motherhood Is a MF, where Kei is laying the foundation for the entire show: you can love motherhood, love your children and still be deeply committed to having a life that belongs to you. This week, we’re talking about mom guilt, identity after motherhood, self-care, friendships, ambition and what it really means to choose yourself as a mom. Kei gets into: • The unwritten rules about what a “good mom” should look like • Why putting yourself first does not automatically mean putting your children last • Feeling guilty about girls’ trips, spending money on yourself or simply wanting a break • Why overwork and exhaustion are not proof of good motherhood • Protecting your friendships, career, relationships, hobbies and dreams after having children • Finding self-care that feels good instead of creating another obligation • Why your children benefit from seeing you live a full life • Creating your own hours of operation and protecting your peace Then, in Letter From the Village, a mom admits she couldn't wait for the kids to go back to school — and immediately wondered whether enjoying the peace and quiet made her a bad mom. It doesn't. And in From Mother to MUVA, Kei leaves you with one question: What is one thing you love about yourself that has absolutely nothing to do with how well you take care of anybody else? Do more of that. Remember: You are more than what you do for everybody else. You are allowed to choose yourself without guilt, rest without earning it, protect your peace without apology and make room for joy on purpose. You are still that girl. Motherhood will never make you forget it. Motherhood Is a MF is the podcast about motherhood that has absolutely nothing to do with raising kids. This one’s about the mom — her identity, ambition and relationships. Letter From the Village: motherhoodisamf@gmail.com Follow the show, leave a review and send this episode to the mom who needs to hear it.
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