There's no special train coming to pick you up one day. Tamara Rasheed knows that better than most — she built a life and a publishing business out of neglect, abuse, and homelessness, one deliberate choice at a time.

Tamara is an author and publisher who now helps people process their own stories and turn them into books. In this conversation, she and James get into the real difference between a goal and a vision, why fear isn't really about the thing you're afraid of but the story and meaning you attaching to it, and why healing is never something that simply happens to you — it's something you choose, moment by moment.

They talk about people-pleasing as a survival skill that stops serving you, why you can't carry other people's perception of your past into your future, and practical tools Tamara used long before she ever knew coach ...