To Be Her Now

To Be Her Now

di Cara Sutterfield
Miglioramento personaleSalute & Benessere
Stagione 2
18 Building a Life With More in It Part 3 of 3: Capacity
IA
What happens when life doesn't give you the option to say no? In the final episode of the three-part capacity series, Cara gets personal — sharing the season of change, grief, and relentless busyness that led to a complete physical shutdown in January 2021, and what it taught her about what it actually costs to keep overriding your body's signals. She talks about the non-negotiable yeses — caregiving, illness, teenagers who need a taxi — and what it looks like to build enough capacity that the hard seasons don't hollow you out completely. Plus: a four-question audit to assess what your life is actually doing to your capacity, and the practical tools that make the difference between surviving a hard season and being resourced enough to meet it. ------ *A note on how this podcast is made: Beginning in Season 2, I started using AI as a creative collaborator in the production of To Be Her Now. Every story, idea, and perspective you hear in this podcast is mine. The experiences are really lived by me. The voice is really mine. AI doesn't generate my content — it helps me give it structure and form, the same way a great editor or writing partner might. Think of it as a very smart sounding board — one that helps me shape outlines, refine scripts, and find the right words for what I already know I want to say. I also use it to quicken and streamline the editing process. I believe in being honest about the tools I use, because this show is ultimately about closing the gap between who we are and who we're becoming — and that kind of becoming has to be rooted in truth.
S2 · E18
29 apr 2026
28:10
17 You Don't Need a Reason to Say No. Capacity: Part 2 of 3
IA
Do you feel guilty every time you say no? You're not alone — and it's not an accident. In this episode, Cara explores why so many women struggle to set limits, where the people pleasing starts, and what it's actually costing you to keep saying yes when you mean no. She breaks down what guilt is really doing when it shows up around boundaries, why your worth is not located in other people's approval, and what the honest yes and the honest no actually look like in practice. Plus: simple, practical language for saying no without over-explaining — because no is a complete sentence and you are reason enough. ------ *A note on how this podcast is made: Beginning in Season 2, I started using AI as a creative collaborator in the production of To Be Her Now. Every story, idea, and perspective you hear in this podcast is mine. The experiences are really lived by me. The voice is really mine. AI doesn't generate my content — it helps me give it structure and form, the same way a great editor or writing partner might. Think of it as a very smart sounding board — one that helps me shape outlines, refine scripts, and find the right words for what I already know I want to say. I also use it to quicken and streamline the editing process. I believe in being honest about the tools I use, because this show is ultimately about closing the gap between who we are and who we're becoming — and that kind of becoming has to be rooted in truth.
S2 · E17
22 apr 2026
15:13
16 What Is Your Capacity Today? Part 1 of 3
IA
If you're constantly overwhelmed, overcommitted, and running on empty — this episode is for you. In part one of a three-part series, Cara explores why so many women are carrying more than their nervous systems were designed to hold, how to recognize the signs that you've exceeded your capacity, and what it actually looks like to honor your limits without guilt. Plus: why respecting someone else's no might be one of the most important things we can do for each other right now. Find Cara on Instagram at @ToBeHerNow. ------ *A note on how this podcast is made: Beginning in Season 2, I started using AI as a creative collaborator in the production of To Be Her Now. Every story, idea, and perspective you hear in this podcast is mine. The experiences are really lived by me. The voice is really mine. AI doesn't generate my content — it helps me give it structure and form, the same way a great editor or writing partner might. Think of it as a very smart sounding board — one that helps me shape outlines, refine scripts, and find the right words for what I already know I want to say. I also use it to quicken and streamline the editing process. I believe in being honest about the tools I use, because this show is ultimately about closing the gap between who we are and who we're becoming — and that kind of becoming has to be rooted in truth.
S2 · E16
16 apr 2026
19:13
15 Consistency as Devotion - "I AM"
IA
In this episode, Cara explores what happens when we stop treating consistency as a performance standard and start treating it as a spiritual practice. Drawing from her own experience as a self-described queen of stopping and restarting, she offers a reframe that changes everything — every consistent choice is an act of devotion to the person God is calling you to be. At the heart of the episode is an original teaching concept: the Irreducible Minimum — the most faithful, sustainable version of your practice that you can almost always show up for, even in your hardest seasons. And hidden inside those two words is something Cara didn't plan to find: the I AM — the most sacred name in scripture, and a reminder that showing up in your most essential form is not the lesser version of the practice. It is enough. It has always been enough. This episode is also a Q2 invitation. If your January intentions have gotten quiet, they didn't expire. Come find out how to come back to them — without shame, without drama, and without waiting for Monday. Find Cara on Instagram at @ToBeHerNow and tell her — what is your I AM? ------ *A note on how this podcast is made: Beginning in Season 2, I started using AI as a creative collaborator in the production of To Be Her Now. Every story, idea, and perspective you hear in this podcast is mine. The experiences are really lived by me. The voice is really mine. AI doesn't generate my content — it helps me give it structure and form, the same way a great editor or writing partner might. Think of it as a very smart sounding board — one that helps me shape outlines, refine scripts, and find the right words for what I already know I want to say. I also use it to quicken and streamline the editing process. I believe in being honest about the tools I use, because this show is ultimately about closing the gap between who we are and who we're becoming — and that kind of becoming has to be rooted in truth.
S2 · E15
8 apr 2026
20:57
14 Perimenopause: Your Body Isn't Broken, She's Doing What She's Supposed to Do
IA
In this episode, Cara opens up about one of the most misunderstood and undertalked transitions in a woman's life — perimenopause. Drawing on her own experience navigating changing hormones, a body that stopped responding to what used to work, and the emotional rollercoaster of feeling alive with possibility while simultaneously feeling like a stranger in her own skin, Cara offers a reframe that changes everything: your body is not broken, it is doing exactly what it is supposed to do. From the wisdom of a dear friend's cultural saying — "the way you come in is the way you go out" — to the sacred arc of the maiden, mother, and crone, this episode is an honest, warm, and deeply personal look at what perimenopause actually is, why it may be starting earlier than we think, how to support yourself through it using the four pillars, and why the most important thing you can do right now is stop trying to fix it — and start learning to trust it. Come find Cara on Instagram at @tobehernow and tell her what resonated with you today. ------ *A note on how this podcast is made: Beginning in Season 2, I started using AI as a creative collaborator in the production of To Be Her Now. Every story, idea, and perspective you hear in this podcast is mine. The experiences are really lived by me. The voice is really mine. AI doesn't generate my content — it helps me give it structure and form, the same way a great editor or writing partner might. Think of it as a very smart sounding board — one that helps me shape outlines, refine scripts, and find the right words for what I already know I want to say. I also use it to quicken and streamline the editing process. I believe in being honest about the tools I use, because this show is ultimately about closing the gap between who we are and who we're becoming — and that kind of becoming has to be rooted in truth.
S2 · E14
1 apr 2026
31:44
13 Coming Home: What To Do When You Fall Off, Lose the Thread, and Need to Find Your Way Back
IA
We've all been there. One decision that sends us sideways, and suddenly a day becomes a week and a week starts to feel like evidence that we were never really going to change anyway. This episode is for that moment. The one where you're six days in and wondering how you got there. Cara gets honest about a week that started with a beautiful date night — and what unraveled after. She talks about the difference between abstainers and moderators, what the inner story sounds like when we fall off track, why the gap between knowing and doing is almost never about information, and how the Four Pillars — Movement, Sleep, Hydration, and Nourishing Body, Mind and Spirit — become a compass home instead of a standard to fail against. This isn't a bounce-back episode. It's a coming-back-in-real-time episode. And there's a difference. Your future self doesn't need you to be perfect. She needs you to start. Or to gently keep going. And she needs you to do it now. ------ *A note on how this podcast is made: Beginning in Season 2, I started using AI as a creative collaborator in the production of To Be Her Now. Every story, idea, and perspective you hear in this podcast is mine. The experiences are really lived by me. The voice is really mine. AI doesn't generate my content — it helps me give it structure and form, the same way a great editor or writing partner might. Think of it as a very smart sounding board — one that helps me shape outlines, refine scripts, and find the right words for what I already know I want to say. I also use it to quicken and streamline the editing process. I believe in being honest about the tools I use, because this show is ultimately about closing the gap between who we are and who we're becoming — and that kind of becoming has to be rooted in truth.
S2 · E13
25 mar 2026
20:20
12 Follow The Flow: Synchronicity, Intuition, and the Life That's Been Guiding You All Along
IA
Have you ever felt a pull you couldn't explain — a quiet knowing that turned out to be exactly right? In this episode, Cara shares the season of her life that changed everything: a license plate bearing her name, a stag walking out of the dark, and saying "DIBS" to the woman who would become her wife. This is a living, breathing demonstration of what becomes possible when you stop overriding your inner voice and start following the flow of your life. Plus — the practical tools to recognize your own signs, quiet the noise, and trust the nudges trying to guide you home. ------ *A note on how this podcast is made: Beginning in Season 2, I started using AI as a creative collaborator in the production of To Be Her Now. Every story, idea, and perspective you hear in this podcast is mine. The experiences are really lived by me. The voice is really mine. AI doesn't generate my content — it helps me give it structure and form, the same way a great editor or writing partner might. Think of it as a very smart sounding board — one that helps me shape outlines, refine scripts, and find the right words for what I already know I want to say. I also use it to quicken and streamline the editing process. I believe in being honest about the tools I use, because this show is ultimately about closing the gap between who we are and who we're becoming — and that kind of becoming has to be rooted in truth.
S2 · E12
18 mar 2026
28:29
11 She Came Back: What I Learned From Living It
IA
After nearly two years of silence, To Be Her Now is back — and this episode is the honest story of why I stepped away, what I went through, and what I learned from actually living the principles I'd been teaching. I'm talking about the Europe trip that woke me up, the doctor who finally saw me, healing Hashimoto's from the inside out, going back to school, and what it finally took for consistency to click. This isn't a highlight reel. It's the real middle of the journey — and I think it might sound familiar. If you've ever known what you should be doing and struggled to actually do it, this one is for you. Welcome back. Welcome home. You belong here. ------ *A note on how this podcast is made: Beginning in Season 2, I started using AI as a creative collaborator in the production of To Be Her Now. Every story, idea, and perspective you hear in this podcast is mine. The experiences are really lived by me. The voice is really mine. AI doesn't generate my content — it helps me give it structure and form, the same way a great editor or writing partner might. Think of it as a very smart sounding board — one that helps me shape outlines, refine scripts, and find the right words for what I already know I want to say. I also use it to quicken and streamline the editing process. I believe in being honest about the tools I use, because this show is ultimately about closing the gap between who we are and who we're becoming — and that kind of becoming has to be rooted in truth.
S2 · E11
11 mar 2026
14:49
Stagione 1
10 Beat the Sunday Scaries
Eight ideas to combat the Sunday Scaries so you can focus on enjoying your weekend!
S1 · E10
31 mag 2025
10:11
09 Morning and Night Routines
How can we be more intentional about how we start and end our day?
S1 · E9
18 giu 2024
13:47
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