Why do we keep repeating the same relationship patterns, even when they leave us hurt, exhausted, or wondering why love keeps ending the same way?

In this episode of The Learning Love Podcast, Dr. Mark A. Hicks explores why people are often drawn to familiar relationship dynamics—even when those dynamics are unhealthy. From emotionally unavailable partners and constant conflict to people-pleasing, rescuing, over-functioning, and chasing affection, many of our adult relationship patterns begin long before we recognize them.

We often call it chemistry when it is really familiarity.

This conversation looks at how childhood modeling, attachment patterns, family roles, emotional wounds, and learned expectations can shape the kind of love we pursue. You may not consciously want chaos, inconsistency, criticism, or emot ...