Nicole interviews Laurie Berssack MSW of Carolina's Matchmaker, about how matchmaking can help people (especially post-divorce) rebuild confidence, get off the apps, and date with more intention. The conversation blends practical dating advice with Nicole’s legal lens on separation/divorce realities and how dating can complicate a case even when it’s technically allowed.

Key takeaways

0) The hardest part of matchmaking: unrealistic expectations

Lori says many clients come in looking for a “perfect robot” partner—hyper-specific, unrealistic ideals—rather than focusing on the foundational traits that actually make relationships work. When people cling to perfection, they often stay single.

0) “Foundations” matter more than the wish list

Lori’s core matching foundations include:

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