In this episode, Tom sits down with writer and sex educator Aidan Wharton, creator of Gay Buffet, to talk about gay sex education, relationships, sexual pleasure, and queer joy. Aidan shares how his community-driven work grew from a newsletter into a platform exploring the questions gay men actually want answered.

They discuss open relationships, monogamy, boundaries, sexual communication, and why different relationship structures can work for different people. Aidan also shares what he has learned from his community about topics including poppers, gooning, threesomes, and sexual curiosity, all while trying to make conversations about sex more accessible and less shame-based.

The conversation also explores how gay men often learn about sex through community rather than traditional sex education, and how dating apps and digital communi ...