Someone’s mindset determines how they think and behave most of the time. It’s where they’re coming from. It’s how they treat just about everyone. The bully’s mindset is our topic today, and next week we’ll move to the tactics they use.

Having these traits doesn’t necessarily mean a person is a bully, but all bullies think in the following ways because hurting others is their mindset.

They try to cut us off from friends, fun, security and ultimately our own sense of self.

FRIENDS

Triangulation and Shouldering Out: People bond over a commonality. In triangulation and shouldering out, they bond over a common enemy or outsider.

Ego Binge: The bully wins when they take others down. Beating an adversary or competitor is a way for anyone to feel like they’ve won, but it’s the only way a bully fee ...