Stop Trying So Hard, You’re already there. Trying to be something isn’t being it. This goes along with one of our principles, less is more, and takes it a step further into making a low effort.The more you value yourself, the less of an effort you’ll feel you have to make. The lower you value yourself the stronger an effort you’ll feel you must make in order to pass as worthy or enough for others.When you try too hard, you say: I think I’m unworthy and not enough, so I’ll only let you see my best guess at what I think you want. I’ll betray everything in myself that seems unacceptable to make you like me. I’m totally dependent on your opinion of me.Trying to make someone like you, is deeply manipulative and insecure. When you try to make someone like you, deep down you’re feeling you will only be ok with your desired outcome, and that you’re worr ...