In this episode, we’re talking about the quiet (and sometimes very loud) pressure that comes with college — the pressure to have a plan, a personality, a five-year vision, and somehow also be having the best time of your life. So much of what feels overwhelming isn’t actually coming from within you — it’s coming from the outside world and what people label as “normal.” The expectation that college is this perfectly curated, self-discovery montage where you come out the other side completely certain of who you are? That’s not normal. And it’s not realistic. When you feel like people are watching — waiting to see what you’ll do next, how much fun you’re having, how well you know yourself — it can make you feel like you constantly have to prove something. But the truth is, you don’t.

College was never meant to be about graduating with e ...