Early into my marriage I was asked a question that I'm sure many women are asked, and I (naively) answered it honestly. The reaction to my answer was more than confusing... it hurt. I've thought about that experience a lot and it's lead to a deeper acceptance of myself and my choices, and a knowing of what is right for me. But I'm not innocent or always kind either -- I too have flung hurtful words that have cost me friendships.