Families of people struggling with addiction often do everything out of love: bailing them out, paying the rent, trying harder and harder to fix it. After four decades of working with addiction, Dr. Michael Barnes has reached a difficult conclusion: those loving solutions can become part of the problem.

Dr. Barnes is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author of "When the Solution Becomes the Problem," and a former professor at the University of Colorado Denver. Over 40 years in the field, he has worked with families at every stage of addiction, from those facing it for the first time to those who have organized their entire lives around it for generations.

In this conversation, we explore the part of addiction that rarely gets talked about: what it does to everyone around the person who is using. We look at why "just s ...