Hoovering, is a self-serving manipulative trait that, yes, is named after the vacuum cleaner company. After discarding a relationship, narcissists often hoover to lure that person -- often a sibling -- back into the fold. Those who hoover have several tricks in their bag -- guilt, threats, illness, pity, future-faking, triangulation, smearing. Typically, someone who hoovers engages in a sickening cycle of intimacy and discarding. This is not an authentic relationship; it is opportunistic or transactional behavior. Even though we seek belonging, this relationship pattern is tedious, draining, and disillusioning. This insightful episode explores hoovering and how to avoid getting sucked in when a sibling engages in this cunning and controlling behavior.

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