Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 128: Birth Mother Support Birth Mothers need and want your support as an adoptive family.  Here are some ways you can effectively show your support. (Always make sure these ideas and suggestions are in compliance with your state adoption laws, your attorney and/ or agency adoption laws.) Send support notes to your birth mother that are handwritten that she can save forever.  A small note can carry a big message.  Make sure that you understand what is appropriate to include and avoid anything that could be deemed as “coercion.”If a holiday occurs during the time you are matched, make sure you find out what your adoption entity allows and partake in any event or gift they suggest.  Focusing on the birth mother rather than on the baby she is carrying.If your adoption agency or attorney informs you of ...