Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, Episode #152: Adjustment of Expectations When embarking on an adoption journey, it is important to begin with accurate and current information about the adoption process.  It is also important to be flexible in thinking, expect changes and have the ability to adjust your expectations. Some Expectations that some Adoptive Families may have: Birth Mothers will attend every OBGYN appointmentsBirth Mothers will want constant communicationBirth Mothers will be forthright and candid about every aspect of their lviesBirth Mothers will disclose any and all drug useAn adoption agency can control a birth mother An adoption agency has a crystal ballThe Adoption Entity can control the adoption outcome The abiltiy to adjust expectations and understand the importance of  the concept of mindfullness will help crea ...