Michelle Enns, a resource consultant with All Kids Belong in London and Western region director on the ECRCNO board, discusses relationships, connection, and responding to children’s needs in challenging moments. She describes how children move between exploring and returning for safety and connection, and encourages educators to stay curious and view behavior as communication (e.g., aggression as overwhelm, clinginess as a need for reassurance, refusal as independence/control).

When children resist support and escalate, she suggests “being with” them—staying calm, nearby, and available without pressure—rather than rushing to fix the moment, emphasizing co-regulation and resilience-building. She offers reflection questions for educators about how they respond, how to offer support children can receive, and how to stay present.

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