One man paid for my breakfast and left without asking for anything in return. Another Googled me and told me in our very first conversation that he expected me to take him out for a steak dinner because he knew I could afford it. Two men, two meals. One made me feel seen. The other made me feel sized up.

In this episode of The Reinvention Code, I talk about the difference between kindness and entitlement, generosity and obligation, and how to keep your heart open without letting the world make you naïve, cynical or hard.

In this episode:

• Why real kindness should not come with a secret invoice
• How to recognize when someone confuses your ability to help with an obligation to help
• The difference between kindness and people-pleasing
• How to keep discernment from turning into permanent suspicion
• Wh ...