What does it actually mean to show up for your spouse or partner?

For me, showing up doesn't mean grand romantic gestures, expensive gifts, or getting everything right all the time.

It looks a lot more ordinary than that.

It's listening.

It's asking questions.

It's having hard conversations.

It's supporting what matters to them.

It's believing in them.

And sometimes, it's simply pre-opening the creamer.

Key Points From This Episode

1. Showing Up Starts With Listening

One of my favorite questions comes from John Delony:

"How can I love you today?"

I don't ask it enough, but I love what that question communicates:

• I see you.
• I care about you.
• I want to understand what you need.

Showing up means listening before assum ...