Two mothers. The same age.

The same parenting values.

The same child behaviour.

One yells. The other shuts down.

From the outside, they couldn't look more different.

But underneath, they may be carrying exactly the same attachment wound.

In this episode of The Family Architect, Philippa Scott continues the Attachment Trauma Series by exploring one of the biggest misconceptions about nervous system healing: the belief that attachment wounds always look the same.

They don't.

Your nervous system didn't learn one universal response. It learned the response that best protected your connection with the people you depended on as a child.

For some people, that meant becoming louder.

For others, it meant disappearing.

For others still, it became constant vigilance, emotiona ...