Why does it so often feel as though women choose, while men have to be chosen?

In this episode of The Connection Audit, Kirsten & Blake unpack one of the most repeated phrases in swinging, ENM, & modern sexual culture — & ask what really sits underneath it.

Because this is not just a story about desirability, status, or attention. More often, it is a story about risk, trust, pacing, filtering, & emotional steadiness.

Kirsten & Blake audit the gap between how many men experience non-selection, how many women experience attention, & why those two realities are so often misunderstood. They explore why women are rarely screening only for looks, charm, or chemistry, but for something more fundamental: does this person feel safe, calm, discreet, respectful, socially aware, & ...