Talking Shoppe with Deming-Rivers Social Club
The Problem with Mental Health Awareness Month
What Even is the Point of Self-care?
Trauma-Informed Care: Moving Beyond the Buzzword
What is Psychological Safety?
por Deming-Rivers Social Club
Emily and Essence return to Talking Shoppe noting that they skipped recording last week to protect their mental health during Mental Health Awareness Month. After a “work wife, work nemesis, or work overlord” game. They discuss how awareness months often stop at posts and slogans without creating foundational change. They debate whether “stigma” is overstated compared to lack of access, citing barriers like long waitlists, poor-quality care experiences, and insurance complexity that disproportionately impact marginalized groups, and argue the month should emphasize education, assessment, action, connection, advocacy, and system accountability. They share underrated and overrated mental health tools. They close with their weekly R.E.P.O.R.T. segment. 00:00 Welcome Back 01:31 Work Wife, Work Nemesis, or Work Overlord 06:11 Awareness Versus Action 08:02 Stigma Or Access Debate 17:09 Grassroots and Systemic Change 23:12 Underrated vs. Overrated Coping Skills 30:39 Choosing Coping Skills 31:50 Beyond Awareness Month 33:26 Mental Health Month Takeaways 34:58 Weekly R.E.P.O.R.T Segment 41:15 Wrap Up
Emily and Essence are back for Episode Four of Talking Shoppe! After “Work wife, Work Nemesis, and Work Overlord” segment, they unpack the concept of self-care as well as the misconceptions of self-care. They discuss how hormone fluctuations can affect productivity and emotion regulation, critique workplaces offering “self-care” when people are already at a breaking point, and distinguish proactive self-care from reactive coping. They compare their different self-care frameworks, including neurodivergent prioritization, internal monologue differences, access and routines, and how chronic illness changes capacity. They close with their weekly R.E.P.O.R.T segment. 00:00 Welcome Back Chaos 01:33 Self Care Preview 01:53 Work Wife, Work Nemesis, Work Overlord 07:36 Hormones And Capacity 09:15 Self Care Vs Coping 15:12 Why Self Care Fails 19:24 Neurodiverse Needs 22:08 Task Vs Fuel 25:55 Connection vs Self Care 27:33 Chronic Illness Capacity 28:16 Quiet Minds Loud Minds 30:42 Lowering Care Barriers 31:41 Measuring Your Battery 37:40 Prescribed Self Care Problem 39:46 Top Self Care Rotations 43:49 What We Learned Today 45:51 The Weekly R.E.P.O.R.T
Essence and Emily introduce their weekly “Talking Shop” podcast and a recurring segment choosing a work wife, work overlord, and work nemesis. They discuss trauma-informed care in organizations, highlighting that many workplaces stop at acknowledging trauma and struggle to build skills and systems as well as the psychological safety needed to support people under pressure. They define trauma and distinguish trauma from PTSD criteria, and noting overlooked “margin” traumas. They critique performative approaches like posters, certifications, rigid policies, KPIs over wellbeing, and individualizing protective factors, offering examples like flexible scheduling, role clarity, validation, follow-through, and designing to reduce barriers. They close as always with their weekly R.E.P.O.R.T. 00:00 Welcome to Talking Shoppe 00:36 Why We Started This 01:24 Work Wife, Work Overlord, Work Nemesis 06:25 Trauma Informed Care 08:32 What Trauma Really Means 12:55 Designing For The Margins 15:02 Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs 19:15 Workplace Culture Gap 23:50 Certifications Versus Systems 27:53 Stop Adding Fuel 31:22 Behavior Function in Leadership 34:33 Connection and Follow Through 38:56 Self Awareness and Impact 40:27 People Over Policy 45:54 Trauma Informed as Mindset 48:32 Weekly R.E.P.O.R.T
In episode two of Talking Shoppe, Essence and Emily talk about their interests, new discoveries, and the struggles of setting up audio equipment. They introduce a game segment, “Work Wife, Work Overlord or Work Nemesis,” using nostalgic TV shows, and briefly reflect on awkward coworker invitations. The main topic is psychological safety, defined (via Amy Edmondson) as the belief that one won’t be punished or humiliated for speaking up; they emphasize it’s a felt experience that can’t be declared, and distinguish supportive structure from harmful rigidity, using bowling bumpers, balloons, and dam metaphors. They describe consequences of low psychological safety—self-censorship, festering conflict, marginalization, and burnout—and connect it to Deming-Rivers Social Club and therapeutic work with groups and organizations. They close with their Weekly R.E.P.O.R.T. 00:00 Mic Check Banter 01:05 Podcast Habits 01:55 Tea Shop Shoutout 02:42 Episode Two Kickoff 03:00 Work Wife, Work Overlord, Work Nemesis 06:56 Coworker Invites Story 08:26 What Is Psychological Safety 11:32 Structure Versus Rigidity 16:28 Grounded Balloon Metaphor 18:23 Social Club Origins 20:55 Teaching Safety At Scale 22:30 Family Systems Safety 24:22 Leadership Safety Balancing 25:03 When Safety Breaks Down 27:27 Marginalization And Voice 29:06 Burnout And The Dam 30:57 Building Support Systems 31:36 Next Steps And Q&A 32:45 Weekly R.E.P.O.R.T
Get to Know Essence and Emily: Why We’re Starting This Podcast Essence and Emily, psychologist, wives, and organizational culture consultants behind Deming-Rivers Social Club, introduce their new podcast as a way to share the raw, unfiltered conversations that don’t fit in typical social media content. They describe their work split between therapy and consulting with nonprofits and human services organizations to build more sustainable, inclusive cultures and reduce burnout and turnover through practical, engaging, experiential training rather than overly simplistic wellness advice. They share their path from grad school through internship matching, their training at Palm Beach County Youth Services Department, and how a systemic focus shaped their approach and led them to identify gaps after moving to Sarasota. They outline podcast themes: organizational psychological safety, mental health, identity, current events, and reality TV—and close with a “weekly R.E.P.O.R.T” on what they’re reading, eating, playing, obsessing over, recommending, and treating themselves to. 00:00 Welcome to Talking Shoppe: Meet Essence and Emily 00:20 Why a Podcast 01:47 Who It’s For 02:55 Therapy Meets Culture 04:08 Grad School to Doctor 04:41 Internship Match Day 05:55 Palm Beach Training 07:03 Residential Program Life 07:52 Postdoc and Love Story 08:45 Systemic Lens Explained 10:24 Identity and Diversity 12:53 Burnout and Capacity Gap 14:15 Consulting Mission Values 15:00 Real Talk Trauma Care 16:16 Better Training Not Chair Yoga 17:21 Reality TV Style Workshops 18:04 Podcast Rough Draft Vibe 18:40 Where To Find Us 19:21 Weekly R.E.P.O.R.T 25:58 Wrap Up And Next Episodes