Stop Parenting & Start Coaching

Stop Parenting & Start Coaching

por Nate Crandall and Steve Galley

Superación personal Paternidad

Parents--So What's Next?!

Thanks for tuning in to this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast. When a "season" or career ends we often wonder: "so, what's next?" We are so thankful to one of our listeners for asking us to address this common and challenging situation that most if not all parents of athletes and performers face: the inevitable end of your son or daughter's high school career. As both coaches and as fathers, we have had a front row seat for this experience with our own teens and hundreds of players. It is not an easy situation to deal with and just one of many reasons why "parenting is the hardest job and there's not a close second" (our favorite parenting line of all time)! Let's tackle this situation together moms and dads! How do we approach this emotionally challenging time where we are watching something so amazing coming to an end? How do we help our teen prepare for this ending? So many good questions to consider--here are some more to ponder: --As parents, what are the different components of this situation that should be addressed? --If my teen may or will receive the opportunity to play or perform beyond high school, how do we as parents discuss or prepare for such? --What does "success" look like for my teen? --What does my teen want? --Is this about me or my teen? --How do I as a parent handle "the end?" When answering the many questions that fall into the "So, What's Next?" category, the critical fundamentals of connection and communication are KEYS to your success, moms and dads! Btw, we absolutely love how using The QOC Tool would be helpful in this situation. Listen to Episodes 14 & 15 for the deets! Very Important Parents--we hope you have gained some helpful insights! We hope you are now poised to discuss those insights with your spouse or partner and most importantly, with your teen athlete or performer! If you love this episode, please share it with a friend--thanks! And please remember, we're cheering you on moms and dads--you're doing better than you think! - Nate & Steve

Parents--Let's Take a Trip to the "E.R.!"

Relax parents, it's not a medical emergency, it's an Emotional Regulation Expedition! That's right, on today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we're taking a trip to the 'E.R.' ! As a parent of a teen athlete or performer you know emotions are intertwined into your parent/teen world. Emotions show up in your thoughts, conversations, and for sure in your teen's competitions and performances. We cannot and should not necessarily avoid being emotional, but we can and should learn how to appropriately regulate our emotions to set a great example for our teens. You got this mom, you can do this dad! Emotional regulation is a skill, so we are going to ask some tough questions that can help you, as the MVP adults in the room, to develop this important parenting skill. When you regulate your emotions, your superstar teens learn how to regulate theirs. Wow, is this valuable! Wow, will this improve your parent/teen relationship! When this happens, your teen is freed up to perform their best! Win-win! Here are a few of the questions we'll dive into in this episode: -Why should we NOT suppress emotion? -Why we should we embrace rather than ignore emotions? -As a parent what is the best way to teach E.R. to my teen athlete or performer? -As a parent, where do I start in developing this skill? -What is the "next level" (Nate's words) or "oblique" approach to working together with our teens to improve our E.R.? (Note: Steve knows what "oblique" means (and we know you do as well) but his sarcasm fools Nate, so you're gonna get the definition anyway! 😊 -Which emotions should we encourage? Well, we're feeling a little emotional! We are so grateful to you for listening in to The Stop Parenting & Stop Parenting Podcast! Without you, there is no show. Thanks for following us on Instagram at @createtransformbecome and on Facebook (Create Transform Become). And, if you are benefitting from our podcast, please share it with your friends who would love it too! -Nate & Steve #parentingteens #highperformance

The Asterisk Filled Coaching* Episode for Parents

Just curious Most Valuable Parents--do you say asterICK or asterISK? Ok, that's not really important, but what IS important is understanding the coaching* we are talking about in today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching* Podcast. We are not talking about your typical sport or performance coaching.* Football, voice, lacrosse, dance, etc. Nope, not that! When we tipped off with the "what makes a great coach"* question, we were talking about a whole different kind of coaching.* When we say that a better way to equip, empower, and encourage your teen athlete or performer is to "stop parenting & start coaching"*, we place an asterisk on the word coaching.* Yeah, just like that! *Wanna know the coaching* deserving or the mighty asterisk? Well, listen to this episode to learn about this other kind of coaching* that can benefit your teen athlete or performer! Btw, we're BIG fans of this kind of coaching!* Gratitude moment.... We cannot thank our growing audience enough! You are fantastic parents who share our dream of helping your kids to learn, grow, struggle, and triumph! If you are gaining insights to help you stop parenting and start coaching* your teen, please share this episode with another parent or two, or three who would benefit as well. Sharing is caring! Final thought, Parent Units--you are doing better than you think and your kids are counting on you. Believe in them. Respect them. Guide them. Trust them. Transform your relationship with them, TODAY. Catch you next week with another episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching* Podcast. -Nate & Steve P.S. No asterisks were harmed* in the making of this episode. *just overused

Why Parents Should "Coach" Their Teens!

Welcome to an unofficial "air quote" episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast. We immediately dive into our description and explanation of what it really means to "stop parenting" and "start coaching! This powerful, mind shifting concept is the pinnacle of our Parenting Success Pyramid. This is where we hop on the Fun Bus--let's gooooooo MVPs (Most Valuable Parents)! Moms and dads you are engaging in one of the most difficult responsibilities and opportunities you ever undertake in life: parenting your teen athlete or performer. This is a beautiful, messy, and complicated dance between "parenting" and "coaching!" If you ever feel off balance or like you're stepping on your partner's toes, you are not alone. We all can use a dance lesson now and then! Btw, Nate and I are TERRIBLE dancers! The key to creating a better relationship with your teen lies in a fundamental shift from parenting to coaching. The tricks and transactions used on young children are inconsistent in gaining cooperation from teens. The more you lead with respect and COACH your teen, the greater the transformation experienced. We know you are doing your best to get it right. And, if the truth is told, you are likely doing waaaaaaaaaaaaaay better than you think. And, imagine for a moment what can happen if you add to your skill set so your son or daughter is empowered to elevate their performance while simultaneously experiencing less stress and MORE JOY!? Do it! We can help! You will begin transforming the relationship with your teen faster than a 17 year-old can give you a one word answer! Come as you are! We invite you to explore what we are creating at createtransformbecome.com. We are building a one stop shop for parents of teen athletes and performers. We are building courses, thinking and communication tools, coaching opportunities, this podcast (yay!), and more for YOU! And, speaking of our podcast, if you love what you are learning here, please share it and/or this episode with a parent friend who could benefit as well. We do this for you and cannot do it without you. We'd love a 5 star review from you if we are deserving (we are working on our game, too!). We also LOVE the feedback or questions sent to us at createtransformbecome@gmail.com. Let's hear from YOU!! We'd be honored to discuss your "parenting your athlete/performer question/crisis/issue" on an upcoming episode. Best wishes this week as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching your superstar teen! You got this and we got your back. -Nate & Steve

Parenting Skill Series Wrap Up! Encouraging Your Teen!

Hello high performing parents! Welcome back or welcome to, for new listeners, to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! In this third episode of a Parenting Skill Series we dive into the last of the 3 E's in our Triple E Toolkit! It's always a good time to ENCOURAGE our teen athletes and performers. Note: If you haven't checked out Episodes 17 (Equip) and 18 (Empower) we think you'll love them too. The 3 E's play well together--they make a fantastic team! While it may seem so easy to just "encourage," the path to next level parenting is to begins with becoming keenly aware of the best ways to encourage your teen. Encouragement comes in many forms and let's face it, "encouragement" from a parental perspective may not be received by our teens as "encouragement." Every parent knows that no two teens are exactly alike and no two siblings are the same either! So let's examine some important questions to help you get on the same page with your superstars: --What encouragement is most beneficial for your teen? --When was the last discussion you had about what kind of encouragement will help them thrive? --How can you mix up your encouragement? --How can you become the encouraging parent who helps fuel your teen and frees them up to perform their best? --How can can you be an encouragement superstar during the inevitable highs and lows your teen athlete or performer will face? Lets' gooooooooooo Very Important Parents--encouragement from you carries major weight! It's time to up your game and please know you can count on us to ENCOURAGE you on your most important journey in this most important relationship. You got this! Finally, THANK YOU for listening! We do this for you! And, if you love what we're creating here on this podcast, we would so appreciative if you shared this episode or podcast with your parenting friends who would love it too! We're also a big fan of 5 star reviews (if we are living up to such welcome praise). We're on a mission to help thousands of parents to help help thousands of their teens by encouraging them to Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

Parenting Skill Series Continues! Empower Your Teen for Success!

Hi there and THANK YOU for joining us here on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! In this episode, we are excited to unveil the second "E" in The Triple E Toolkit. If you haven't listened to Episode 17 where we examine the first "E" (equip!), we strongly encourage you to check it out first (although it isn't absolutely necessary to do so). Moms and dads, your relationship with your teen athlete/performer is powerfully transformed when you empower them. Empowering your teen requires you to allow him or her to determine what success looks like for them and how hard they are willing to work to achieve it. Focus and confidence will soar for both you and your superstar when you level up this skill! This is a fun one to add to your tool belt, parents! If you love what you hear on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast please share it with your Very Important Parent friends and if you have a moment, we would be so appreciative if you left us a 5 star review on your favorite podcast platform! You're doing better than you think parents--keep going, your kids are counting on you. Believe in yourself and believe in them! We're cheering you on! --Nate & Steve

Parenting Skill Series Alert! Equipping Your Teen for Success!

Let's go Most Valuable Parents! Thanks for tuning in to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we encourage you to think creatively about your approach to parenting, uh coaching, your amazing sons and daughters. Let's skill up and help your dynamic teen athlete or performer to shine! Today we kick off a series just for you (well, really it's for the teens!). In this first of 3 episodes we pull the first tool in our Triple E Toolkit out of the, we guess, kit. The first E is: EQUIP! This crucial tool has multiple applications for you as Parental Units and multiple implications for your teen who is just itching to explore their limits and perform their best. Pick up this "E" and let's go to work! Note: The Triple E Toolkit is available to you for FREE (yay--we love free stuff!) at our ever growing and evolving website: createtransformbecome.com. Go grab it today (look for the "Download Free Tools" button) and skill up so your teens can elevate their games! Thanks for listening in and if you loved what you hear from us, please share this episode with another parent or two or three who would love to hear it too! THANK YOU and we're cheering you on as you tackle the hardest job (responsibility, blessing, calling, etc.) in the world: Parenting! -Nate & Steve

Parent Package Delivered! The Triple E Toolkit is Here!

Hello parents! Do you want your teen athlete and performer to be happy and shine on the stage, court, or field? Of course you do and so do we! Wait--what if there were specific tools that can help you make this happen? Good news! There are! In this most useful episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we introduce The Triple E Toolkit for parents. For you! A remarkable shift happens when parents intentionally choose to improve their skills rather than assuming skill development is solely for their teen athlete or performer. The 3 E's in The Triple E Toolkit, namely Equip, Empower, and Encourage will help you build new capabilities and confidence in your relationship with your teen. These transformational skills will turn you into a high performing coach! Learn to do more than recognize the struggle, honor it by leveling up your game. Help your son or daughter to Excel (another E!), perform their best, and Enjoy (we're not gonna say it) a thriving relationship with you. Let's tool up together and become skilled High Performing Parents, um Coaches! Btw, you can get The Triple E Toolkit on our website: createtransformbecome.com. It's complimentary--we want all parents to add it to their parental and coaching workbench! Thanks for listening and if you love our message, please share this episode with two or three of your parent friends! --Nate & Steve

Yo Parents--What in the world is a QOC?

Greetings MVPs (most valuable parents)! We have a question for you! What in the world is a QOC? Well, let's waste no precious time here. A "QOC" is a "Questions Only Conversation!" This game changer will transform your conversations with your teen athlete or performer (and your spouse, partner, friend, co-worker, random stranger, and probably your boss, although we don't know your boss so we cannot confirm if a QOC fits their agenda right now)! Two fundamentals of great relationships are trust and communication and you'll create a double whammy of both by utilizing The QOC Tool! It's not magic but we won't be surprised if you experience magical results with your teen by using The QOC Tool. And by the way, The QOC is one of the free thinking and parenting tools available in our growing arsenal for parents of athletes and performers at createtransformbecome.com. Check us out there and up your parenting game! Thanks for listening and if you love our message and are receiving value from our podcast, please, please, please leave us a 5 star review and some comments describing what you love about it as well as sharing this episode with a few of your parenting friends. Thanks for being part of our community. Thanks for listening. Thanks for helping us to help thousands of teens by helping thousands of Most Valuable Parents! TEAMwork WORKS! -Nate & Steve

Bridging the Parent/Teen Gap with The Communication Ring!

Welcome VIPs (very important parents) to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we tackle the hardest job ever: parenting! Parents--you're doing your best and racking up parenting wins, but you also feel at times that you're losing the communication game. Join the club! As perfectly imperfect parents ourselves we understand the importance of creating healthy lines of communication between us and our teens. Today we share an incredible tool that can transform your family dynamic—"The, may we say mighty, Communication Ring!" It is just one of a growing cache of coaching tools we are making available to you for free at our evolving website: createtransformbecome.com. Hop on board with us and unleash a wave of energy and enthusiasm into your family life! Equip yourself with strategies to navigate the challenging teenage years by fostering love, trust, and open dialogue. You got this VIPs and we got you!! -Nate & Steve

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