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Have you ever met another woman and immediately assumed you'd become friends?
Maybe you work in a male-dominated industry and feel an instant sense of relief when another woman walks into the room. Maybe you've found yourself replaying text messages, wondering whether someone likes you, or trying to turn a casual connection into a close friendship because it feels like opportunities for meaningful friendships are rare.
In this episode of She's Been Through Some Shit, I'm talking about a realization that took me years to have: not every woman you meet is supposed to become your best friend.
As one of the few women in engineering for much of my career, I often assumed that shared experiences automatically meant friendship potential. Same industry? Instant connection. Similar background? Future besties. But eventually I realized I was confusing proximity with compatibility.
This episode explores how scarcity can shape the way we approach friendships, why some relationships feel effortless while others feel forced, and how learning to stop chasing every potential friendship actually brought more peace into my life.
From engineering conference rooms to horse barns, I'm sharing stories about friendship expectations, people-pleasing, belonging, and the mindset shift that helped me stop asking, "Do they like me?" and start asking a much better question:
Do I actually enjoy being around this person when I'm not trying to impress them?
We'll talk about:
✓ Why making friends as an adult feels so much harder than it did in your twenties
✓ The friendship scarcity trap and how it affects women
✓ Female friendships and the pressure to instantly connect
✓ Workplace friendships and navigating relationships in male-dominated industries
✓ Why shared demographics don't always create meaningful relationships
✓ Supporting other women without forcing friendships
✓ How to identify friendship compatibility versus obligation
✓ Letting relationships evolve naturally instead of trying to control the outcome
✓ Friendship boundaries, connection, and finding your people
✓ Why fewer meaningful friendships often feel better than dozens of surface-level ones
This episode is for anyone who has ever:
• Felt lonely in a male-dominated workplace
• Wondered why some friendships never seem to click
• Struggled with people-pleasing tendencies
• Tried too hard to make a friendship work
• Felt guilty for drifting away from someone who wasn't actually a good fit
• Wanted deeper, more authentic relationships
The truth is that not every friendship is meant to last forever. Some people become lifelong friends. Some become work friends. Some become acquaintances you enjoy seeing from time to time. And some are simply people who walk alongside you for a season.
Learning to accept that has been one of the most freeing lessons of my adult life.
If you've ever felt pressure to turn every promising connection into a close friendship, this conversation is for you.
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