Shady & Untamed
Codependency [Part 2] : Needs, Responsibility & Choice
Codependency [Part 1] : The Need to Be Needed
Trauma Isn't Always the Big Stuff
por Jessica Brooks, LMHC and Ana Allen, LMHC
If someone asked you right now what you need, could you answer without listing what you have to get done first? This episode picks up where codependency and boundaries left off and goes straight into needs, starting surface level with the to-do list and digging down to what's underneath it. We hand you the questions we challenge clients with before they take on something that isn't theirs to carry. We talk about choice theory, why "I have to" is rarely true, and why sitting in the discomfort of a choice is still more powerful than pretending you never had one. We also break down why a nice guy isn't automatically a good guy, and how kindness without boundaries can quietly become manipulation nobody intended. Then a sneak peek what's coming next... because trauma bonding deserves its own hour. New episodes drop every Wednesday. Submit a Question for the Pod here: https://beacons.ai/shadyuntamedpodcast We're both licensed therapists, but this podcast is not therapy and we are not your therapists. It's education with a little humor mixed in, not clinical advice. If you're in crisis, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. You can also call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, or text HOME to 741741 Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!) https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/summer License code: MGPLFEEUIXGKQRU2
Codependency doesn't always look like a problem from the outside because it looks like kindness, sacrifice, and being the reliable one. On this 2-part episode we're pulling that apart. We talk about the differences between codependency and people pleasing, why both typically trace back to a fear of abandonment and a belief that you have to be useful to be worth keeping around. Then we get into boundaries, the actual mechanics of setting and enforcing one, the cost of self abandonment when nobody's even asking you to pay it, and the grief that shows up when people leave because you finally stopped managing everyone's feelings but your own. We also settle a pet peeve once and for all: the difference between a boundary, a rule, and an ultimatum, because they are not the same thing and most people are only doing one of them. New episodes drop every Wednesday. Submit a Question for the Pod here: https://beacons.ai/shadyuntamedpodcast We're both licensed therapists, but this podcast is not therapy and we are not your therapists. It's education with a little humor mixed in, not clinical advice. If you're in crisis, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. You can also call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, or text HOME to 741741 Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!) https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/summer License code: MGPLFEEUIXGKQRU2
Everyone throws the word around. Almost nobody agrees on what it means. In this one we get into what trauma actually is, what it isn't, and why the definition matters more than you'd think. We talk about why it's not really about the event itself, why two people can go through the same thing and walk away completely different, and why "it wasn't that bad" is one of the most common things we hear in a therapy room. If you've ever compared your history to someone else's and decided yours didn't count, this one's for you. New episodes every Wednesday. Submit a Question for the Pod here: https://beacons.ai/shadyuntamedpodcast We're both licensed therapists, but this podcast is not therapy and we are not your therapists. It's education with a little humor mixed in, not clinical advice. If you're in crisis, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. You can also call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, or text HOME to 741741 Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!) https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/summer License code: MGPLFEEUIXGKQRU2
Before we get into anything, here's who's talking. We're Jessica and Ana, two licensed trauma therapists who love all things therapy and wanted to share our passion, zero sugarcoating. In this one we get into who we each are, how we work, what this show is going to cover, and why we decided the internet needed one more podcast. New episodes every Wednesday. Submit a question for the show: https://beacons.ai/shadyuntamedpodcast We're both licensed therapists, but this podcast is not therapy and we are not your therapists. It's education with a little humor mixed in, not clinical advice. If you're in crisis, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. You can also call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, or text HOME to 741741 Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!)https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/summerLicense code: MGPLFEEUIXGKQRU2