Fifteen days before her gender confirmation surgery, Rae opens up about transition regret in a way that moves beyond fearmongering, panic, and anti-trans talking points.

In this deeply personal episode, Rae reflects on what she actually regrets as a South African trans woman living in Asia: being outed, losing family relationships, losing agency over her own story, spending years performing masculinity, and not recognizing safe love and support sooner.

But she is also clear about what she does not regret. She does not regret transitioning. She does not regret the epiphany. She does not regret choosing herself, even when she had to swim alone while others stood on the shore calling their rejection “concern.”

This episode explores grief, family fallout, bodily autonomy, self-actualization, transphobia, emotional v ...