What if the people you’ve decided would never want what you have are actually the exact people you should be talking to?

I came home from Portugal with one belief completely challenged: the aces aren’t hard to find.

We’re often taught to look for the obvious need... the person who needs more money, hates her job, wants more flexibility, or desperately needs something to change. But what about the woman whose life is already good? The high performer. The successful one. The woman with options, influence, ambition, and a proven ability to make things happen.

Success doesn’t eliminate desire.

In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between scanning for pain and scanning for capacity, why “I don’t want to bother her” might actually be rejection avoidance, how to identify the gap when someo ...