MESSY THOUGHTS EPISODE 30. This week on Messy Thoughts, BJ and LeBron are talking summer bodies, gay beauty standards, body image, and the complicated way confidence, attraction, and community all collide when pool party season starts creeping up. The episode starts with Whitney Houston vocals, podcast alter egos, “The Familiar” merch ideas, and BJ getting read by his grandmother over his nose ring and bald head. Then the conversation gets real as the hosts unpack what it feels like to gain weight, get attention for your body, feel invisible in gay spaces, and deal with the pressure to look a certain way for Pride, pool parties, Grindr, circuit parties, and the gay community in general. They also talk about attractiveness as social currency, whether a good body can make up for a bad face, why the “Grindr game” can destroy your self-esteem, and ho ...