If you love your parent and they've also hurt you, you already know how impossible that feels to explain. In this episode, Esther Kane and Laurie Newcomb explore the emotional complexity that makes caregiving for an abusive parent so uniquely exhausting — and why so many caregivers feel like they can't talk about it honestly with anyone.

They dig into the guilt messages that keep caregivers trapped ("you only get one mother," "family comes first"), the painful hope that this time things might finally be different, and the isolating experience of watching the world see only a "sweet elderly parent" while you're living a very different private reality.

Laurie also breaks down why conflicting emotions — love and resentment, compassion and anger, loyalty and fear — are completely normal in complicated relationships, and why the caregivers ...