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Jollof and Kompa

Jollof and Kompa

por Alexis & Augustus

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My Nigerian Husband and I Couldn't Agree on These Marriage Questions

In this episode, we answer a series of tough marriage questions—and let's just say my Nigerian husband and I didn't agree on as many as we thought we would. From money and family to conflict, loyalty, and life's biggest "what if" scenarios, these questions sparked some surprisingly honest conversations.

What We Still Don't Do In Front of Each Other After 4 Years of Marriage

After 4 years of marriage, we know everything about each other… or do we? 😅 In this episode, we talk about the things we still don’t do in front of each other as a married couple. From farting and bathroom boundaries to keeping a little mystery alive, we explore the question every couple eventually faces: Can you be too comfortable in marriage? Are there things you and your spouse still keep private? Or do you believe marriage means there are no secrets? Let us know your thoughts in the comments 👇

My Wife Says I'm Not Romantic... After This Conversation, I Get It.

I always thought I was showing love in the right ways. My wife disagreed. In this episode, we unpack why Alexis thinks I'm not romantic, how we define romance completely differently, and why couples can unintentionally miss each other's efforts. From flowers and date nights to food, quality time, and feeling truly seen, this conversation challenged a lot of my assumptions about marriage. Have you and your spouse ever realized you were speaking different love languages without knowing it? Let us know in the comments.

Alexis Wants to Move to Japan for an $800/Night 'Birth House'

In this episode of we’re diving into some big life updates and a concept that completely changed how Alexis views postpartum care: the Japanese "Birth House." 🇯🇵👶 After researching the culture of postpartum support in Japan—where mothers can stay in a dedicated "birth house" for around $800/night to focus entirely on recovery—Alexis is ready to pack her bags! We discuss the importance of mother-centered care, why the U.S. might be missing the mark, and whether we can actually justify the cost (Augustus has some thoughts on that!). We also get into: 💃 Our Salsa Journey: The "cross-body lead" and why it almost caused a fight. 📱 New Morning Habits: Augustus is finally leaving his phone downstairs! 💰 The Money Debate: Are you a "cushion" or a "couch" person when it comes to savings? 🛠️ The Bike Rack Saga: How a simple car upgrade turned into a lesson in community (and why you need the right tools!). Questions for the Community: Would you consider "birth tourism" or a birth house for $800/night? Are you a sleeper who wakes up to check your phone, or can you sleep through the night like Alexis? In your relationship, who is the "saver" and who is the "spender"?

My Nigerian Husband Thinks Crying During Arguments Is “Manipulation”

In this episode, we talk about crying during arguments and why we see it so differently in our marriage. My Nigerian husband believes crying during conflict can feel manipulative because it shifts the focus away from the conversation, while I see tears as a natural expression of vulnerability and emotion. We unpack how culture, upbringing, and communication styles shape the way we handle conflict as a couple — and why emotional expression during arguments can feel so complicated. What do you think? Is crying during arguments manipulative, or is it a healthy expression of emotion?

Do Nigerian Men Find It Hard To Be Vulnerable In Marriage?

This episode turned into a much deeper conversation than we expected. We talked about emotional vulnerability, growing up in different households, why some men struggle to express emotions, and how those experiences show up in marriage. From family dynamics to painful personal moments, this was one of the most honest conversations we’ve had on the podcast.

My American Wife Asked Me To Wash The Toilet

In this episode of Jollof & Kompa, we talk about what “Head of the House” actually means in a modern marriage — and why we don’t completely see it the same way. From chores and leadership to gender roles and expectations, this conversation started small… and turned into something much deeper. We unpack the cultural ideas we grew up with, the roles men and women are expected to play, and how marriage forces you to redefine a lot of those beliefs in real time. Let us know in the comments: What does “Head of the House” mean in your relationship?

I Asked My Wife What She Tells Her Friends About Our Marriage

What do you actually tell your friends about your marriage? In this episode of Jollof & Kompa, we get real about friendships, boundaries, and what should (and shouldn’t) be shared outside your relationship. From cultural differences to personal comfort levels, we unpack how we each view privacy, respect, and oversharing—especially when it comes to sensitive topics.

Are Good Intentions Enough? The Argument That Ruined Our Night

In this episode, we unpack how one small moment revealed a bigger difference in how we think and show up for each other. If you’ve ever felt like your effort wasn’t seen—or like someone’s intentions didn’t match their actions—this one will hit home. 00:00 Is Food Really That Deep? 04:40 We Bought Bikes (Life Update) 10:00 Trying New Things in Our 30s 14:20 The Argument: What Happened 18:30 Expectations vs Reality in Relationships 22:30 It’s Not About Food (Acts of Service) 25:00 Good Intentions vs Follow-Through

She Thinks It's Shameful. My Culture Says It's Obligation.

Sending money back home is an expectation in Nigerian culture — but not everyone sees it that way. Augustus and Alexis get into one of the most sensitive financial conversations in their marriage. Where do you draw the line between family obligation and protecting your own household? Drop your experience in the comments.

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