por Didi Masita
When someone ghosts you, walks away, or doesn't fight to keep you in their life, it's easy to feel like you've taken a loss. You start questioning your worth, wondering what's wrong with you, and comparing yourself to people whose partners "fought for them". But the here's the truth: their lack of effort is not a reflection of your value. In this episode, I break down why not being fought for doesn't mean you're not enough, how social media fuels this false narrative, and how to reclaim you power when someone doesn't show up. It's not your loss...it's their loss.
Are emotional needs important in a relationship? In this episode I explore what emotional safety means, how it impacts intimacy, femininity, and self-worth. If you've ever felt unseen, unheard, or like you're walking on eggshells with your partner, this episode will help you understand why.
Hi guys! I know I have been MIA for a while. Life got hectic with a new job and a big move, but I'm back. In this episode I talk about how many of us were forced to choose ourselves, not out of self-love, but because the people we chose or wanted didn't choose us back. When you are discarded or replaced, choosing yourself can feel more like survival than self-worth, and that can keep you stuck in victim mode, chasing validation anywhere it shows up.
In this episode, I delve into how emotional pain, particularly after a breakup, can reshape our behaviour and sense of self. From drinking to distract ourselves, to changing our appearance, or chasing the same person in a different body, heartbreak can push us into survival patterns that often masquerade as personality. I explore the danger of romanticising the past, and how hope can quietly hold us hostage, and the slow journey of finding ourselves again.
At what point do boundaries and standards turn into high defensive walls stopping you from forming romantic connections you desire? In this episode, I explore how boundaries can morph into barricades and high defensive walls that keep out the love we desire, making us emotionally unreachable and unable to recognise genuine love. Maybe, being single for a long time isn't about luck -maybe you're just emotionally unavailable. Episode inspired by https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMSA3T91q/
We're officially a year old!! YAAAAY! Cheers to us! In this episode, I talk to you as if I am talking to my best friend. I share a personal story of how I recently escaped a financial grooming trap that could have led to an abusive relationship. I also discuss how being an impressionable woman can make you vulnerable to manipulation tactics such as financial grooming. Financial grooming: a form of manipulation where someone creates a false sense of trust and security by offering access to money or gifts in an attempt to gain control of the person's financial decisions, thus leading to psychological, emotional, or financial abuse. IG: fromagirlsgirl
Hi guys! In this episode, I'm unpacking NEGGING, how it's often mistaken for flirting in romantic situations, disguised as "constructive criticism" and/or "praise" at work, and even dressed up as "support" in friendships. NEGGING is a subtle form of manipulation used to gain psychological control, making you feel like you constantly have to prove your worth. I also share a personal story about how my boundaries protected me from a relationship that could've had me right back in therapy twice a week! IG: @fromagirlsgirl
In this episode, I talk about the shame that surfaces whenever something- be it a business, career move, passion project or relationship- doesn't go as planned. Shame hurts because it isn't only about what failed; its about the stories we tell ourselves afterward. And as you'll hear, failure can be the very spark that ignites a brand-new beginning. If something doesn't work out, something else will!
Dating for validation is a real thing! In this episode, I explore the overlooked motivation for seeking validation in relationships. Dating for validation can manifest in codependent behaviors such as "pick me" tendencies and rescue behaviors. Many of us are dating for validation, we just aren't aware. PS: sending strength and healing to all the girlies triggered by everything happening in the country.
Vulnerability is a beautiful and complex concept. It deepens connections, and great friendships and relationships thrive because of it. In this episode, I explore the important distinction between vulnerability and oversharing. Vulnerability builds intimacy and cultivates empathy and understanding. However, it requires boundaries and discernment to avoid oversharing or putting yourself in harm's way. IG: fromagirlsgirl