#13 Love, Loss & Everything I’ve Never Said

In this episode of “Chasing My Hero,” I open my heart like never before.

I share my story with love—what I believed, what hurt me, what healed me, and what I still dream of. From childhood ideals shaped by romantic comedies, to the heartbreak of expectations unmet, to powerful letters like Richard Feynman’s that made me question it all.

This is about longing and patience, about the paradox of wanting love without losing yourself. About what truly matters in a partner. About the journal entry I never thought I’d share.

But mostly… this is about hope.

Timestamps

00:00 – Intro: Richard Feynman’s Letter

03:19 – Hopeless Romantic or Just Honest?

07:07 – The Witness: “Shall We Dance” & Being Seen

13:47 – What Richard Feynman’s Letter Taught Me

20:00 –The Love That's Worth It

22:10 – Logan Ury: The Prom Date vs The Life Partner

26:23 – Attachment Styles & Emotional Dependency

30:07 – The Qualities That Actually Matter

38:42 – Matthew Hussey's Framework

44:23 – A Journal Entry: My Letter to My Future Husband

Referenced Books & Ideas

• Attached – Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
• Love Life – Matthew Hussey
• How to Not Die Alone – Logan Ury
• Shall We Dance (2004) – “A witness to your life” scene
• Richard Feynman’s letter to his late wife Arline

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