Birth Mother Matters in Adoption  Episode 17: A Little Self-Esteem Can Go A Long Way  Self-esteem is the stairway out of the basement.  Many of our birth mothers find themselves in negative life cycles and one reason for their adoption choice may be to break the familial negative life cycle.  There is a common thread among many women who wear the moniker of low self-esteem. Adoption can be a way to break a negative life cycle and climb out of the basement.  Sometimes lives are reflective of being so deep in the ocean that you have to look for their air bubbles to find your way to the top.  Adoption can be the air bubbles.  Life has perpetual forks in its road, when you make a bad choice its hard to change and find your way back. Self-esteem is not easy to rebuild.  Change is hard and self-esteem once risen and can be easily broken down.  I  ...