Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 28: Choosing An Adoptive Family Choosing an adoptive family for a birth mother does a few things in addition to moving her along in the adoption process: It makes her adoption decision real, she is looking at books of pictures of real families who are being presented to parent her unborn baby. This can create a myriad of emotionsSome birth mothers try to postpone or delay looking at profiles because it feels “real” at that point.  While others actually find peace after selecting a family because now they can focus on getting to know the adoptive family and know that they are making a wonderful choice for their childIt can make a birth mother re-think her decision on which type of adoption she would prefer; normally this goes from closed to semi-open or open.  When she sees the adoptive families she may  ...