“Doing it for the plot” has become a defining phrase of our generation, but somewhere along the way, fun started getting confused with self-sabotage.

In today’s episode of 20s Confidential, we’re unpacking what doing it for the plot actually means, how it can become toxic when taken too far, and how to find the balance between living fully and staying aligned with your goals. From all-discipline/no-fun to all-chaos/no-structure, I’ve lived on both extremes...and neither one works long-term.

This episode is all about finding your middle ground, what I call selective chaos: allowing fun, spontaneity, and presence into your life without creating problems for your future self. We talk discipline vs. restriction, fun vs. distraction, why balance looks different for everyone, and how self-awarenes ...