You raised your voice at a sick person for four seconds, and you’ve been carrying it around for three days. Seneca wrote that the greatest remedy for anger is delay — not so anger will forgive, but so it can finally form a decent judgment. In this episode, Esther looks at why caregiving anger almost never belongs to the moment it lands on, why being angry at someone you love isn’t evidence about your character, and three specific things to do with the sixty seconds after the heat arrives.