Embodiment, Consent, and Leaving a Sexless Marriage: Skylar Lyralen Kaye on Queer Intimacy and Self-Love

Non-binary, gender-fluid writer and solo performer Skylar Lyralen Kaye discusses their work on intimacy, queerness, and mental health, and describes a day-to-day life grounded in solitude, meditation, yoga, hiking, and paddleboarding after moving from the US to Portugal, which they find safer, more peaceful, and less achievement-driven.

They redefine success as quality of life, joy, love, and inner peace, and explain how embodiment practices and theater training helped release trauma-held “armor,” highlighting limits of talk therapy and the importance of somatic work. Skylar recounts leaving a 35-year sexless marriage in their sixties after recognizing asexuality, grief-related disconnection, and awakening sexual e ...