Why does betrayal feel so devastating, and why can rebuilding trust feel so difficult after a relationship rupture? In this episode, Tom (he/him) welcomes Dr. Christopher M. Shea (he/him), licensed clinical social worker, sexologist, and researcher focused on queer relationships, betrayal, and healing.

Christopher shares his research on betrayal trauma in LGBTQ+ relationships and explores why queer couples may experience unique challenges when navigating trust, repair, shame, and relationship expectations. Together, Tom and Christopher discuss the impact of heteronormative research, internalized stigma, attachment patterns, the inner critic, and why betrayal is about more than just what happened – it’s about the meaning we make from it.

They also explore what healing can look like after infidelity, why both partners need compassion an ...