Anti-bully mindset: I don’t want attention. I won’t try to get your attention, I won’t try to keep your attention, I feel good without your attention, I feel good with your attention as long as it’s enjoyable and doesn’t get boring.

Frame everything the bully does as an opportunity to give yourself what you deserve: confidence, self-respect, humor, self-reliance, recognition for doing what's right. Whatever the bully does is an opportunity to show everyone you don’t seek attention, especially if it’s theirs.

Here we go into detail about exactly how an anti-bully responds to classic bully moves. This is going to be a long one but you can skip around to find the strategies that will work best against your bully. I'll go in order of the list below. See if you can anticipate how a person who doesn’t want attention would handle each bully  ...