When is it best to do nothing? In response to a bully, almost always is the answer, but let’s get more specific in today’s episode.

Any time you feel compelled to fix, change, or make it better with the bully, stop right there because you are handing out the bully snacks in that moment.

Notice whenever you feel like you MUST do something about the bully. Get good at noticing this impulse, so you can get good at resisting it.

What is it about these kinds of reactions (fixing, changing, adjusting, or making it all better) that makes them interesting to a bully?

Two things immediately come to my mind: The knowledge the bully gets from watching you try to win them over, and the power they get from seeing you fail.

You misguidedly want to do the right thing: be fun and entertain ...