There are those deaths that remove the rose colored glasses. I experienced that with my parents. I was in my 40s and I felt that I was an adult, but I learned very quickly that many of things that I thought that grief and life in general was very wrong. It was a total slap in the face. I found my entire life turned upside down, but not for the typical, I feel like an orphan reasons. I was no longer rationalizing the things shown to be family and friends. I accepted whatever place that was shown to me…I lived Maya Angelou’s quote and I believed ppl as they showed me who they were and found a way to be okay with it.