Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 108: The " What Ifs" in Adoption A major concern of many birth parents and adoptive families is what happens if my adoption does not go as planned?  In life, so many of us worry about the “what ifs?” We have these worries and fears regardless of whether we are making an adoption plan, pregnant, embarking on a new life journey, about to make a change in life or maybe just struggle with fear and anxiety.   For birth parents, your adoption plan, you are in control as much as anyone can be.  You get to make the decisions about your baby, you get to choose the adoptive family and you get to decide how you want the process to go.  There are aspects of an adoption that will be out of your control, but going into an adoption, try to understand that some of these aspects would be the same if you were pregnant  ...