In this episode of The Quest for Self, we talk about the difference between love and trauma bonding, and how to tell which one you're actually in. If your relationship feels more like a rollercoaster than a safe place to land, if the highs are incredible but the lows are devastating, if you feel more alive during the chaos than during the calm, this episode is for you. I share my personal story of being in a relationship for years that I thought was passionate and deep. We'd have massive fights followed by intense makeups. And I convinced myself that the intensity meant it was real love. But what I didn't realize was that I was never safe. I was always walking on eggshells, bracing for the next explosion. My nervous system was in constant survival mode. I wasn't bonding with him through trust. I was bonding with him through chaos. That's trauma b ...